Moments of Gratitude

A few days ago I waited at a stop sign for a bicycle to pass by, a dad with his daughter riding behind him on a trailer bike. As I watched them whiz past, the girl, no more than six years old, released her hold on the handlebars and spread her arms wide against the wind, her little legs pumping the pedals, hair flying behind from under her helmet.

A moment of gratitude for childhood and freedom, for these priceless memories, father and daughter having fun together. A moment of gratitude for the beautiful day, health, love and family.

Later, driving up the hill, a lone egret caught my eye, her graceful body standing erect, white against the green of the grass. Somehow, just watching that one egret, I felt ready to fly, filled with hope and joy.

Often these moments of gratitude are just that, a twinkling of a moment, so small it is easy to miss them if I don’t pay attention, so everyday that I feel it’s a miracle I notice them at all. My daughter’s face as she sits reading a book on her carpet before she realizes I am watching her. My son’s serious face as he plays the violin. The puppies huddled together as a pack on one doggie bed. Holding hands with Dar when we walk into the Farmers’ market. A piece of chocolate melting under my tongue.

My daughter’s Jewish Studies teacher calls these “I am grateful moments,” or in Hebrew, “Modeh Ani.” At school, she allows children to stand up in the morning and tell the entire group of first to third graders what their moment of gratitude is. My mother is going to have a baby today. I won a gymnastic competition. Wonderful, wonderful things happen to these wonderful kids.

According to Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project, “Gratitude is a key to happiness,” and “consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives.” I’ve noticed that whenever I let these moments of gratitude enter my life, my heart expands, I feel more connected to the world, and yes, happier, more full of joy.

Ms. Rubin recommends keeping a gratitude journal, writing a few words each day that express thankfulness for something that happened that day, or dedicating a few minutes every day to express gratitude verbally. I’ve decided to have a “moment of gratitude” tweet each day on twitter.

I love this quote by JFK: “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” As a writer, I am far too prone to utter words and then completely forget to live by them. But I hope that by writing my joy and being attentive to these moments of joy in order to express them, I will have assimilated the feeling of gratitude into every moment of life, whether it is good, bad, or in between.

5 Responses to Moments of Gratitude

  1. humbled February 21, 2012 at 11:15 pm #

    Sigal, nice post. I’ve been keeping a gratitude list right before I go to bed each night for the last 14 months or so. I always find it refreshing, engaging, and useful. It’s useful in that in consciously thinking about what I apprecaite in other people, I it gives me cause to remember to act on that gratitude. Being thankful is good, giving back from that place of thanks is even better. I don’t always remember to do something special to thank others in the moment, but as I’m laying in bed, I make a mental note of things that I could do the next day to demostrate my appreciation. It always winds up in my being more connected with that person. Nice bonus!

  2. TerryLynnJohnson February 24, 2012 at 3:26 am #

    Oh Lord, I love this post. I used to be consistent with writing in a gratitude journal, but I’ve neglected it. Thank you for the reminder.

  3. Sigal Tzoore February 25, 2012 at 5:40 pm #

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  4. Sigal Tzoore February 25, 2012 at 5:42 pm #

    I totally agree with you about the feeling of connection — and love — that comes from acknowledging appreciation and gratitude. That’s the best part about it.

  5. Sigal Tzoore February 25, 2012 at 5:42 pm #

    I’m so glad you enjoyed it Terry! I’ve been trying to keep up with my own gratitude journal but I’m not very consistent with it. I still hope to be able to remember to stay aware of these moments of gratitude and remember to acknowledge them as they happen.

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